When entering into parenthood, we’re prepared to expect the sleepless nights, the new responsibilities, and the struggles of dealing with children, but why are we not prepped for the ways this new life chapter will tear us down, make us raw, and expose every part of our soul?
Motherhood is so fucking vulnerable.
We tend to put so much focus on the birth of our children. We know everything about when they joined us earthside. Everyone even wants to know the stats of their arrival. But why as a society to we fail to recognize the rebirth that happens within the mother?
There is so much vulnerability with sharing the motherhood experience exactly how it is. Beautiful. Terrifying. Healing. Triggering. Exhausting. Raw. With such a profound life experience, why are we only talking about a small percentage of what the experience is really like? And furthermore, why as mothers are we taught to feel so much shame around our experiences?
In Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead she writes, “If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
When I started to be more vulnerable and share my motherhood journey, two things happened.
The first was that some people were instantly triggered and only cared to see the parts that questioned our shallow motherhood rhetoric. It’s cool. They were obviously not ready to question and perhaps have a lot of things to heal. Either way, I quickly recognized who my support system would be.
The second was women from all over the world reached out and thanked me for sharing my story. My vulnerability helped them feel less alone. My vulnerability helped them find power in their own journey. Not only was I able to connect to new people and people already in my life on an entirely new level, but for the first time, I felt like others were seeing me as a whole.
The way we talk about motherhood instantly takes away our power. It can make us feel less than. It can make us forget who we are. It can make us feel like we are doing everything wrong.
Fortunately, there’s a shift happening right now, and I’m sure you’ve noticed it, too. Many women are stepping into their truth and sharing every light and shadow. Women from all walks of life, with all different kinds of experiences, and audiences are getting real and this vulnerability is creating real change.
The more we can open up and be vulnerable about our experiences the more we can help other women feel supported through pregnancy, postpartum, motherhood, mental health, spirituality, and everything in between.
So as you read this, I urge you to consider sharing more of your story with those who need it most. Even if you aren’t ready to share your journey publicly, that’s okay. Start sharing with friends. Even if it’s just one person, imagine the beautiful ripple effect.
It is through this beautiful movement that we will be able to heal together through our stories, ’cause isn’t it about time we de-stigmatized this crazy thing called motherhood?