I began to focus on my mindfulness journey after I had my son when he was around 7 months. I started to focus on being mindful because I was dealing with a lot of anxiety and depression. While I was in it, trust me, I didn’t see it as postpartum depression but now that I look back, it was definitely that. There were days in the beginning where I would stress eat, take quick showers because I was worried about my son needing me, I barely went out the house because I couldn’t stand to get dressed or even brushing my teeth on some days. Then one day out of nowhere, I was in my kitchen and I just felt a rush of anxiety and being overwhelmed. I dropped to the floor and was crying my eyes out. My son crawled over to me, looked at me and smiled. After I got it together I told myself I would never let my son see me like that again. I needed to make a lifestyle change and most of all get my mindset together.
I focused on my mindfulness by saying and writing positive affirmations, listening to podcasts, and making sure to include self-care and self-love practices throughout my day. I really value working out and remembering to “show up for yourself” every day. My workouts are my “me time” and I really value making sure to focus on improving my whole body mentally, emotionally, and physically.
My daily mindfulness rituals include doing a 20-30 minute workout in the morning, making a healthy “Energy Smoothie,” listening to a motivational speech or podcast, and giving myself hugs, Writing self-love notes or gratitude notes throughout the day.
Before becoming a mom I didn’t really engage with mindfulness practices. I didn’t see the importance in maintaining a mindfulness approach throughout my day. I have always tried to be optimistic and carry myself as a positive person, however, I didn’t really think about how my relationship with myself affected those around me.
Overall I would say being mindful has helped me be a more involved, engaged and patient parent. I feel like by being happy, confident, and in tune with myself, I am able to be the best mom that I can be to my son. Throughout this journey, I have learned that I am stronger than I think and that it is ok to NOT BE OK. As moms, we all go through our own personal issues and still show up for our kids and family. By being mindful I have given myself permission to put me first in order to be the best woman I can be. I have learned that I can be consistent and I can be loving and compassionate while remaining bold and uniquely fierce!
You are never too busy to focus on mindfulness, even if it is for a second, take time to breathe and be in the moment. Do something today that the future you will say thank you for. You are beautiful. You are worth it. You are loved!
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