I recently posted a poll on Instagram and 100% of you shared that others were triggered by your spirituality. And honestly, I’m not surprised.
Even as spirituality becomes more of an accepted part of our culture, I think it’s one of those things like veganism that rocks some core beliefs that many aren’t ready to question yet. And that’s okay.
However, when you go through a spiritual awakening and you start sharing this new sense of self with your loved ones and face rejection because of it, that can open some deep wounds. For me, I was severely bullied in high school to the point where I almost didn’t pass the 10th grade. When I started to peep out of the spiritual closet, there were several close family and friends who instantly resisted this part of me.
That rejection caused me to hide for a long time. But the Universe kept calling and eventually, I answered and had to step into a completely raw and unprotected version of myself in order to grow. It was scary and I won’t deny that I still have resistance, but I’ve used self-love and an inner knowing to help me rise above their fear.
So, what can we do when others are triggered by our practice? We send them love and thank them for providing us with lessons to grow and evolve. The only true thing we can do is lead with light and love for others who need our guidance to heal.
It’s also important to acknowledge that the issue is never with us personally. Never take it personally. Maybe they are triggered because…
Vulnerability is scary.
While vulnerability is a huge buzz word lately, not everyone is ready to open up. Being completely raw, unfiltered, and honest is really hard for most people. And who can blame them? As kids we are taught to be quiet, stop crying, and are not always given a safe space to speak our truth. As Brené Brown says, “vulnerability is the most accurate way to measure courage,” so be proud of how brave you are and always be there to listen if they ever choose to open up.
They assume you’re judging them.
This one always gets me. It’s so ironic to me that when you commit to a mindful or spiritual practice where the key principles are love, gratitude, and non-judgment, other people automatically assume you’re judging them if they have different beliefs. I will admit that there are spiritual gurus that have contributed to this belief with their “if you’re not doing it this way you’re doing it wrong” attitude, but for the most part, this isn’t true.
My practice has allowed me to see everyone through a lens of love and understanding. While I do my best to relate to others in this way, I don’t think the pretentious label that got stuck on spirituality will go away anytime soon. That’s why we must lead by example and never make anyone feel less than for what they believe in.
They aren’t ready to question.
Some people like their comfort zones and where they are at, and that’s okay. When that sense of security is threatened, some people act out. Questioning things that we’ve been conditioned to believe for most of our lives comes with a lot of resistance. It is one thing to question, but another to put in the work to go inward and find answers. Most people aren’t ready to step into the unknown and figure out a new way.
There’s this common misconception that when you commit to a mindful and spiritual practice it’s unicorns, rainbows and good vibes only, but that’s definitely not the case. In fact, I’d dare to say that things get harder when you are most self-aware. It’s called expansion for a reason. The highs are more intoxicating and the lows are deeper. But that’s why we show up so we can discover the entire spectrum of our soul.
They have healing to do.
Sometimes your new path to soul development is the big fat mirror someone else has been avoiding. None of us like the mirror. Maybe this person has wounds that need to heal around self-worth or authority. The best analogy I’ve ever heard is this: When you squeeze an orange, what comes out? Orange juice. So, when you put pressure on a person, the same thing happens. Whatever is on the inside comes out. Like I said before, don’t take it personally.
They are on a different soul path.
We all come to this earth with different lessons to learn on different levels of our soul’s journey. Perhaps this person is a newer soul who is still in survival mode or maybe their mission in this lifetime is extremely different than yours. Being conscious and compassionate of this part of the equation can help you approach this person with love without judgment.
Finding Your Soul Family
The single most important part of my spiritual journey has been surrounding myself with like-minded people who see me in my most authentic form and love me unconditionally for it. It has been life-changing. Having a community has made the relationships strained by my spirituality easier to approach from a place of love and understanding.
How have you overcome resistance to your awakening? Let me know in the comments!